Dating and personality types
"I'm an ISTJ," he told me, and that's the moment I decided it could be doomed.
It was only my fourth date with the guy, but until then, he'd seemed perfect: an intelligent 23-year-old with blond hair, visible maturity, and the derring-do to wear a pink button-up. , categorizes people into 16 different, four-letter personality types, where each letter represents a preference between two modes of thinking—extroverted (E) versus introverted (I); sensing (S) versus intuitive (N); thinking (T) versus feeling (F); and judging (J) versus perceiving (P).
INFJs seek specific qualities from partners and friends.
We value intelligence, honesty, authenticity, creativity, passion, and kindness.
The 16-type system developed by Isabel Briggs Myers is the most commonly used system of personality type in the world, and provides an easy-to-understand basis for studies on compatibility.
However, some types will probably be more compatible with INFJs than others.
He’s logical, she’s emotional; he’s from Mars, she’s from Venus.
Much is made of the idea that opposites attract, and we all know at least one of these “odd couples” that makes a relationship work despite major differences. And more importantly, what makes for the most successful relationship—a stimulating opposite or a comforting soulmate?
So the ISTJ thing definitely wasn't a deal breaker, I told myself.
And it didn't seem to be…until he disappeared a week later without explanation.