My world dating
During this time, I had a very cool, young single friend who invited me to a party at her home. I grabbed a Chardonnay and spotted an attractive woman about my age who was surrounded by people. I introduced myself and learned that Sandy was a life coach. I was left standing there, hummus dripping from my pita chip, while all eyes glared at me accusingly. The outside was full of divorced, middle-aged walking dead like myself. And by more, I meant a nice man out there who could pick up where my last husband had left off.We looked pretty normal on the outside but inside we were raw and bloody with wounds that just would not heal. A man who would accompany me to dinner parties, take me on romantic vacations and, you know, go to Home Depot for light bulbs.
And so Shane talked, while I furiously scribbled notes.
The headspace you need to find is “if you don’t like it, get bent." Figuring out who you are can be a tricky process, and it doesn't happen overnight.
Learning about yourself and where you’ve gone wrong makes you a better person, and it’s hard to admit the type of person you are, mistakes you have made and your shortcomings.
In fact, I'd been going about being single all wrong.
When I started seeing my husband, aka the first guy I wasn't embarrassed to tell my therapist about, I was gobsmacked to realize how much I hadn't known about dating before then.