Ways to be less intimidating
Instead, remember to make eye contact and smile at the guys you are interested in.
This will signal that you aren't playing the role of an ice queen. If you're at a dance club, surrounded by a large crowd of your female friends, it's unlikely that a man will approach you, says Cutaia Olson.
“You say yes when you mean no, which leads to resentment and a sense that you’re invisible.
This can lead to feeling depressed and devalued.”It might be harder for you to be assertive because you fear “being challenged, shamed, ignored, disregarded or socially excluded,” Hanks said.
[Read: 3 Steps to Triumph Over Resentment]Who wouldn’t want to live a healthier, happier, more enjoyable life?
And if there were a pill that offered us all of the above, most of us would take it in a heartbeat.
While sometimes in the dating world you will find guys you think are intimidating, there's also the possibility that you yourself are scaring off potential dates.
That is, each of us finds different people intimidating. Wingert helps her clients realize that they can choose to feel secure (instead of intimidated), “regardless of the situation and who else is in it.” Here are six tips to try.1. The first step to being assertive is knowing yourself and your values, said Hanks, director of Wasatch Family Therapy and author of .
She’s found that most people who have a hard time acting assertively haven’t reflected on what they think, feel, need and want.“If you have uncertainty or don’t have conviction about what you want to express, it’s really difficult to behave assertively.”To get clarity, she suggested simply asking yourself questions, like the below, on a regular basis: Hanks also recommended using a feelings word list to describe how you’re currently feeling.
Do you ever get the feeling that life is passing you by, as though you are always playing catch up?
Does it feel as though your mind is like a monkey, constantly jumping from tree to tree, without ever stopping to rest?